Hello All,
Yesterday was International Bereaved Mother’s Day, a day to recognize mothers and other persons that lost a child. This is also the day to recognize those that are struggling with infertility and other health issues that arise while trying to conceive. I want to implore those that may have had a miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, an abortion, lost a child from sickness or another unfortunate event. Persons that have lost their mother or mother figure, have a strained relationship with their mother, mothers or parents that have strained relationships with their child(ren).
No one can know the grief that each of you are having at this time. My grief from losing my mother can not be measured with someone else that is in my same shoes. I want you on this day and the rest of thee week as we lead into Mother’s Day to not run from the grief that you may be feeling right now or may come later on. Just acknowledge it, sit with it, journal it, ground it, cry it out or whatever else that makes you feel like you are able to manage it all. Some may not feel anything and that is okay as well. Again, no one can tell you what or how to grieve or even if you truly have to grieve.
Our individual journeys with grief are ours and ours alone. If you need to step away this week from things, that is okay. If you feel like you can manage and the grief is not insurmountable that is okay as well. I am writing this blog post as someone that is sad right now and knows that I can manage it for today but who knows what tomorrow will bring and I am okay with that. I am being gentle with myself and my grief.
Here are a few tips:
- Reach out to other bereaved groups in your community, either in person or through online communities. I can send you some groups if you email me.
- Write a letter or do a special memory project to continue bond
- Light a candle in memory of your child/mother
- Unplug for the day, rest, and practice self-care. Be gentle with yourself and all of the feelings you may have about your loss.
One more thing to remember, grief is a part of this journey we call life, it may not consume us daily but on those days when it feels unbearable, know that this too shall pass.
Blessings,
